Most high-achieving women do not need more discipline, especially when feeling tired. You need better signal detection to recognize when you've pushed too hard.

We often see resting as an indulgence, or a form of quitting, and reserve the idea of recovery for severe illness or major injury. But science shows us it’s a strategic recalibration that restores the systems you rely on. Your executive function, recovery capacity, sleep, and metabolic resilience all depend on a balance of stress and recovery. When stress stays “on” too long, your body accumulates allostatic load, the physiologic wear-and-tear of repeated adaptation. [1]

While we all experience the negative effects of long-term stress, we rarely recognize the signs our body and mind send to tell us it's time to add recovery.

Here are 7 common signs you have accumulated too much stress, moved out of optimal performance, and are now operating at a greatly diminished capacity.

1) Your “CEO brain” goes offline

You feel less patient, less flexible, more reactive, and simple tasks feel oddly difficult.

The prefrontal cortex (planning, prioritizing, impulse control) is highly stress-sensitive. Under stress, it shifts resources away from higher level, long-range thinking toward survival-oriented responding. [2] It becomes harder to focus on priorities, and you end up spinning with busy work.

Your personal sign: “I’m capable, but today I’m impulsive, scattered, & lacking focus.”

2) Small decisions start feeling heavy

You avoid choices, procrastinate, or default to whatever is easiest, even when you “know better.”

Decision fatigue is a real phenomenon; repeated high-effort decision-making can degrade decision quality and increase shortcutting and avoidance. Most of the strong research is in high-demand professional settings, but the pattern is the same with overload in daily life. [3]

Your personal sign: “I can run a company, but I can’t choose dinner.”

3) Your effort stops matching your results

Workouts feel harder, recovery worsens, cravings spike, sleep becomes lighter, motivation gets brittle, or weight loss stalls despite consistent effort.

That mismatch is often a systems issue, not a willpower issue. Allostatic load affects neuroendocrine, autonomic, immune, and metabolic regulation, which is why stress spillover shows up in multiple places at once. [1,4]

Your personal sign: “I’m doing ‘the right things,’ but my body isn’t cooperating.”

4) You’re tired, but wired at night

You are exhausted, but your system does not downshift. You may fall asleep and then wake at 2–3 am alert, or feel physically restless even when mentally calm.

This often reflects a stress-response system that is not shutting off cleanly, so sleep pressure and arousal signals are fighting each other. Allostatic load can disrupt rhythms and recovery physiology. [1,4]

Your personal sign: “My body is in bed, my nervous system is still at work.”

5) Your emotional range narrows

You feel flat, irritable, or “fine” until you suddenly are not.

When the prefrontal cortex is taxed, it becomes harder to regulate emotion in real time; you default to faster, more reactive circuitry. [2]

Your personal sign: “My fuse is shorter than usual.”

6) You feel aches and pains

Tension headaches, jaw clenching, tight neck or hips, gut sensitivity, skin flares, sugar cravings, restless legs, or that sense of being internally “revved up.”

These are common spillover signals when stress physiology interacts with immune, GI, and metabolic regulation. [1,4]

Your personal sign: “Nothing is ‘major,’ but everything feels off.”

7) Your recovery metrics drift in the wrong direction (if you track them)

Lower HRV, higher resting heart rate, worse sleep scores, slower recovery from training.

HRV is widely used as an index related to cardiac vagal control and self-regulatory capacity, it is not perfect, but when it trends down alongside symptoms, it can be a useful early warning signal. [5]

Your personal sign: “My data is telling the truth, listen to it.”

A Simple Reset You Can Use Today (10–15 minutes)

Pause, reflect & recognize- “This is a reset signal, not a motivation problem.” (30 seconds)
Downshift physiology (2–4 minutes):
Slow breathing with a longer exhale than inhale (example: inhale 4, exhale 6). This supports parasympathetic activation and can help restore top-down control. [5]
Reduce cognitive load (3 minutes):
Write three bullets:
- Must do today
- Can wait
- Dropping entirely
Close one loop (5 minutes):
Do one small finish that creates relief, send the email, prep protein, schedule the appointment, clear one surface.
Set one boundary for tonight (30 seconds):
Earlier bedtime, lighter workout, no extra commitments, a few moments to yourself, or a 20-minute walk.

This is how you protect momentum: you reset early, before your body forces a shutdown.

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Research Spotlight

Key insight: Stress-related neurochemistry can rapidly impair prefrontal cortex function (your higher reasoning), which is one reason “pushing harder” can backfire when you are already overloaded, and need your calm and rational mind the most. [2]

References

[1] McEwen BS. Stress, adaptation, and disease: allostasis and allostatic load. Ann N Y Acad Sci. 1998. (PubMed)
[2] Arnsten AFT. Stress signalling pathways that impair prefrontal cortex structure and function. Nat Rev Neurosci. 2009. (Nature)
[3] Maier M, et al. Systematic review of the effects of decision fatigue… Br J Health Psychol. 2025. (Taylor & Francis Online)
[4] McEwen BS. Allostasis and allostatic load: implications for neuropsychopharmacology. Neuropsychopharmacology. 2000. (PubMed)
[5] Laborde S, Mosley E, Thayer JF. Heart Rate Variability and Cardiac Vagal Tone in Psychophysiological Research. Front Psychol. 2017. (Frontiers)

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